I have a friend who is not of a born again Christian.  He says that he believes and that he wants us to have an open relationship. I am afraid that I may give into a relationship with him that I may not know how to walk away from.  I do not want God to punish me, but I am afraid to wait.  It seems like I am just getting older. Should I trust him on face value that he will allow this relationship to be “no” sex, until a marriage or should I just walk away?  I have been taught to wait for confirmation in seeking a “true” mate.  How long do I have to wait?

First and foremost, God said that we should not be unequally yoked.  The first red flag is open relationship. When you’re trying to establish a serious relationship, never agree to an open relationship, which means…to come and go as you pleased (why even be in a relationship?). Second red flag, he mentioned upfront his guidelines…so therefore, if all fails he will not be responsible for any let downs or unfulfilled commitments, which doesn’t even fall in the same category with your desires. God always give us warning before destruction.  In this case, it all speaks for itself (never compromise)- that’s a trick of the enemy. Also, you used the word afraid…that right there indicates that you are in doubt to begin with. If you have doubts even before getting into a relationship, then that’s your confirmation…just walk away. God will send you the right man (at the right time) but you have to be specific in your prayers. Specific prayers, get specific answers. Ask God to send you the exact type of man you are wishing and praying for, not just anybody. While waiting, get prepared. Know your limitations…what you want and what you don’t want.

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