by Nicole C.R. Chapman

{Excerpt from my upcoming book, A Shepherd’s Heart}

Leaders, how well do you know your flock? Do you know each and every sheep by name? In the field, shepherds knew their sheep. They not only could distinguish between the sheep, but they also knew their names. Understanding those you lead is important, and for some it’s a matter of life and death.

Merriam-Webster defines relationship as “binding or connecting the participants involved.” Relationship is a connection between you and someone else. The more you spend time connecting, the stronger a relationship becomes. Genesis shows us from the very beginning God desired relationship. He never wanted man to be alone, which is why Eve was created. Ecclesiastics 4:9-10 says, “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!” People need friends and sheep need shepherds.

God knew companionship served many purposes, but, most important, companionship provided safety. Sheep that didn’t stay with the flock were prone for attack. Isolated sheep in the church and field are sitting ducks, appetizing prey for the hungry predator. Regrettably not everyone has the sheep’s best interest at heart. It’s from wolves like these that you need to protect your people. Not every enemy looks the same; some are wolves in sheep clothing. But one thing is certain, they want to steal, kill and destroy the dreams and destinies deposited within. You’ve heard the saying “there’s safety in numbers,” and this is true. Sheep are safer when the flock sticks together and the shepherds are nearby. If sheep aren’t watched carefully, one stray sheep can lead many to follow.

In Isaiah 53:6 we’re reminded, “We all, like sheep, have gone astray, each of us has turned to his own way (NIV).” Shepherds must know where their sheep are, by doing a head count and making sure everyone is accounted for. Determine in your heart to keep the line of communication open and fervently bond with those that sit under you. Talk with them and learn about their interest, family life, occupation, accomplishments and disappointments. Go beyond the face and name, and try to understand them. God has made every sheep unique and if you take the time to connect, you can discover the differences in your people. Through this leading, you’ll not only know what to pray for but also how to lead correctly.

But, what about the sheep that appears to be fine? You know, those sheep that stay with the flock, obediently following the shepherd and does everything right. Yet as healthy as they may seem outwardly, inwardly they’re empty. Some sheep are spiritually bleeding and silently they deal with their pain. This is why having a relationship with your people shouldn’t be underestimated. Relationships open the door to accountability, thus closing the door to secrets. Relationships light up what the enemy would prefer to stay in the dark. Help is possible when relationships are formed. Understanding where your flock is physically and spiritually is an assessment you need to frequently make in order to lead properly.

As a mom I can always tell when my children aren’t feeling well, even if they’re playing, laughing and having a good time. It’s because of my relationship with them that I can recognize distress in their eyes, mannerisms, or voice. Simply put, something is missing. Leaders, if you sincerely connect with your people, you can understand what makes them who they are, and in return, they can understand who you are—a shepherd after God’s own heart.

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