I have been dating a wonderful man for almost a year now, we have so much in common, it keeps us fascinated, because we are so much alike. My only problem is that my 17 year old son makes me feel like I’m dating the wrong person and he tells me I should move on to someone new, because he is not the one for me. I have been in some really bad relationships in the past, but this relationship is so much different. It’s a Godly relationship, and he really sees me for who I am. How do I help my son see what I see in my relationship? My desire is for the three of us to just get along and my son to be happy with my choice.

May~
 
You stated that you have been in some really bad relationships in the past and I’m sure your son has been aware of that. It seems as though your son has been the man in your life during those bad times in your past relationships. In your son’s eye sight there is no such thing as a “good man” for you. In order for your son to see what you see, he needs to spend some time with this “wonderful man” for him to see what you see. Try arranging them to see a game together or leave them alone together…”kinda ease into it”. Don’t give your son the impression that you’re trying to force him on him. When they have had an opportunity to spend time together he will get to see another side of him instead of labeling him like the rest of them. If you have already tried any of these techniques, just give it some time because if he’s as wonderful as you say he is, any resentment or jealousy that your son may have towards him will soon fade away and he won’t have any other choice but to accept him, but he must see for himself.

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It starts with your Christian walk. As you conduct yourself (on a daily basis) in a manner that non-Christians will observe, they will know you’re on a different path.  They will not cross that path, unless they’re ready to walk it.

God did not intend for us as Christians to “hate” the secular side of life. We can enjoy holiness and time with God even while we are at work. Continue doing what you know is right, even if you are the only one doing it. Ask God to show you ways to get along with non-Christians while you’re on the job or wherever you may be. He will give you favor as you continue to trust in him. Accept others for who they are. Then you will see how God works in you to complete your joy daily in working around non-Christians and being in non-Christian environments.

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Q: How do you know who to trust? I’ve always had a hard time trusting women because I’ve been backstabbed so many times. But I noticed that a lot of powerful women have been coming into my path, which is what I asked God for. However, I’m not sure if I should open up to them and pursue a real friendship because I fear betrayal.

A: First of all, TRUST has to be earned (a little bit at a time). It’s hard to trust again when you have been “backstabbed” so many times. Start with setting boundaries in your relations. It will definitely be a process.  Once you are comfortable with having faith, believing, relying, and depending on them in small ways, you can move on to the next level in the relationship. It’s not necessary to be totally open in a new relationship, and probably not even wise - for either of you.  It’s altogether possible that the other woman may have experienced her own share of backstabbing in previous relationships and may need to take it slow. Building, rather than rushing relationships, is a good idea all around. You don’t want to sabotage the relationship with too much too soon.  As for the powerful women that have been coming into your path, experience is your best teacher. Follow your heart. When you think about your past experiences with women misleading you, try to think of any signs you may have overlooked.  You will be able to identify those signs if you encounter them in your current relationships. Your heart will never lead you wrong. Following your heart will lead you to the right path to conquer any fear of betrayal. Ask God to lead you and guide you into the right direction and get ready to develop a healthy friendship.

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