Q: How do you know who to trust? I’ve always had a hard time trusting women because I’ve been backstabbed so many times. But I noticed that a lot of powerful women have been coming into my path, which is what I asked God for. However, I’m not sure if I should open up to them and pursue a real friendship because I fear betrayal.

A: First of all, TRUST has to be earned (a little bit at a time). It’s hard to trust again when you have been “backstabbed” so many times. Start with setting boundaries in your relations. It will definitely be a process.  Once you are comfortable with having faith, believing, relying, and depending on them in small ways, you can move on to the next level in the relationship. It’s not necessary to be totally open in a new relationship, and probably not even wise – for either of you.  It’s altogether possible that the other woman may have experienced her own share of backstabbing in previous relationships and may need to take it slow. Building, rather than rushing relationships, is a good idea all around. You don’t want to sabotage the relationship with too much too soon.  As for the powerful women that have been coming into your path, experience is your best teacher. Follow your heart. When you think about your past experiences with women misleading you, try to think of any signs you may have overlooked.  You will be able to identify those signs if you encounter them in your current relationships. Your heart will never lead you wrong. Following your heart will lead you to the right path to conquer any fear of betrayal. Ask God to lead you and guide you into the right direction and get ready to develop a healthy friendship.

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